My sympathies for your loss on this, your Mrs.birthday. Indeed we share pain, so many of us, we could be a forum unto ourselves. My lost love was born on December 18th. She loved that time of year. I still keep, in her memory room, a fully decorated 4 foot artificial tree, the last one I bought for her. It was the final tree and our last celebration together barely seven weeks before she left. The memories often bring tears but somehow those same memories also manage to sooth the pain. I look at her portrait and sometimes whisper “Vaya con Dios, until we meet again” as always .....