I am taking this here since this is a better place to discuss it, when you throw out the "I have several gay friends" line, you might want to just sit this out. Your post was absolutely uncalled for and a loaded post, then you talk about toughening up. That toughening up line has been used against gay men for decades, as if they are not tough. You honestly just don't know who is LGBTQ here, and let me clue you in, there are several here myself included.