Listen I wasn't trying to be snarky, man. Not really complaining about the discussion either...just trying to understand your why, that's all. And you said "I don't get it" (as you've expressed bewilderment with all the excuses and such before)...and so I offered up an explanation.
I mean, an unpleasant reality IS a part of the conversation, is it not? So I thought my point about how uncomfortable it is was relevant (or so I thought).