The pressure many kids and competitors are under for most of their life is borderline abuse as it is. I get wanting the best for your kid but some parents are militant. Youth sports is an intense realm.
I still remember this girl on our street growing up was great at basketball but her father was a psychopath about it. In like middle school a bunch of us neighborhood kids going to get ice cream or something trivial that you do at that age but feels cool (ha)… girl and her dad are in her driveway shooting free throws. We asked her to go with us, she looked like she wanted nothing more than to go, but Dad actually said “you missed a free throw in tonight’s game so I need you to practice a hundred shots and then you can join them later.”
She went on to play like Division III basketball in college, great but not like wow. We all thought her dad was a pyscho; the type of guy who’s got a stopwatch timing his 15 year old daughter’s wind sprints in the street, always saying you need to be better if you want to amount to anything.
I dunno, it’s probably a fine balance between wanting what’s best for your kid and not just completely controlling their life with your desire to see them win.