You're misunderstanding me, man. I'm not saying don't talk about it. I'm not even complaining about that this time.
I was speaking specifically to your frustration/bewilderment with the excuses. You've expressed that, correct? THAT is what I was addressing. I mean, have you not expressed that in your posts on this topic? Lol I was just saying why that may be, not that you shouldn't be talking about it. Summary of my point: Logic doesn't always cut through emotion, and hence responses i.e. excuses!
And tbh, it's actually better we address what's happening (particularly if we have tangible examples of it happening in real time). Gotta acknowledge it to keep future expectations in check. (Does that sound like I said don't talk about it? Lol I know I previously bristled a bit, but not this time).